Conditional support for Cython3.x, CI updates (yaml#808)

* Cython 3.x support needed for Python 3.13
* Move CI to a dynamic matrix
* Use GHA-hosted Apple Silicon runners
* Move Windows builds to cibuildwheel
* Implement rudimentary PEP517 config-settings passthru to setuptools with
  custom in-tree setuptools build backend shim (blocked Windows build
  being moved to cibuildwheel).
* Use build_config.toml to smuggle JSON to cibuildwheel, since it
  trashes JSON via CLI when doing containerized builds.

(cherry picked from commit a2d19c0)

.github/actions/dynamatrix/action.yml

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+name: Create matrix
+description: Create matrix
+inputs:
+  matrix_yaml:
+    description: input yaml matrix as multiline string; any entry with a bool true `omit` key will be filtered from the output matrix
+    required: true
+outputs:
+  matrix_json:
+    description: filtered matrix as JSON
+    value: ${{ steps.matrix_gen.outputs.matrix_json }}
+
+runs:
+  using: "composite"
+
+  steps:
+    - id: matrix_gen
+      run: |
+        # FIXME: input sanity check to prevent shell injection
+        python3 $GITHUB_ACTION_PATH/matrix_yaml_to_json.py --from-stdin << EOF
+        ${{ inputs.matrix_yaml }}
+        EOF
+      shell: bash

.github/actions/dynamatrix/matrix_yaml_to_json.py

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+from __future__ import annotations
+
+import argparse
+import json
+import os
+import pathlib
+import sys
+import typing as t
+import yaml
+
+from collections.abc import MutableMapping, Sequence
+
+skipped_entries = []
+
+def _filter_omit_entries(value):
+    if isinstance(value, MutableMapping):
+        if (omit_value := value.pop('omit', ...)) is not ...:
+            if omit_value is True or str(omit_value).lower().strip() == 'true':
+                print(f'omitting {value} from matrix')
+                skipped_entries.append(value)
+                return ...
+
+        return {k: v for k, v in ((k, _filter_omit_entries(v)) for k, v in value.items()) if v is not ...}
+
+    if isinstance(value, str):
+        return value
+
+    if isinstance(value, Sequence):
+        return [v for v in (_filter_omit_entries(v) for v in value) if v is not ...]
+
+    return value
+
+def main():
+    p = argparse.ArgumentParser(description='GHA YAML matrix filter')
+    required_grp = p.add_mutually_exclusive_group(required=True)
+    required_grp.add_argument('--from-stdin', action='store_true', help='read input YAML from stdin')
+    required_grp.add_argument('--from-file', type=pathlib.Path, help='read input YAML from file path')
+
+    args = p.parse_args()
+
+    path: pathlib.Path | None
+
+    matrix_yaml: str
+
+    if path := args.from_file:
+        matrix_yaml = path.read_text()
+    elif args.from_stdin:
+        matrix_yaml = sys.stdin.read()
+    else:
+        raise Exception('no source provided for matrix yaml')
+
+    raw_matrix = yaml.safe_load(matrix_yaml)
+    filtered_matrix = _filter_omit_entries(raw_matrix)
+
+    output_matrix_json = json.dumps(filtered_matrix)
+    output_skipped_matrix_json = json.dumps(skipped_entries)
+
+    print(f'filtered matrix: {output_matrix_json}')
+    print(f'skipped entries: {output_skipped_matrix_json}')
+
+    if (gh_output := os.environ.get('GITHUB_OUTPUT')):
+        print('setting step output var matrix_json; skipped_matrix_json...')
+        with pathlib.Path(gh_output).open('a') as env_fd:
+            env_fd.write(f'matrix_json<<__MATRIX_EOF\n{output_matrix_json}\n__MATRIX_EOF\n')
+            env_fd.write(f'skipped_matrix_json<<__MATRIX_EOF\n{output_skipped_matrix_json}\n__MATRIX_EOF\n')
+    else:
+        print("GITHUB_OUTPUT not set; skipping variable output")
+
+
+if __name__ == '__main__':
+    main()